Proper Dating Attire

Recently I was reading an article about how the attitude of dress has changed in today's society.  Attire has changed for church, weddings, work, and of course dating.  We have all heard the saying "clothes don't make the man."  However they sure do offer a great and lasting first impression on how we would perceive the man.  Usually dates are the few occasions that we should want to make a great lasting impression.  This does not mean a tuxedo, or suit on the first date, however this does not mean dirty jeans, basketball shorts, t-shirts, or anything considered to be house wear or yard clothing.

I remember going on my first real date back in May of 2012.  I was dating a girl named Kimberly and went on a date at Olive Garden.  I remember sporting a thrifted navy blazer, with a yellow oxford, green chinos and a pair of penny loafers.  I wanted her to see how serious I was about pursuing a relationship or courtship with her at the time.  The next date, I decided to dress in the same manner.  I wore my same navy blazer, a light blue gingham shirt, red chinos, and tasseled loafers.  That had to have been one of the most memorable dates ever.   We went to build a bear workshop, and the Cheesecake Factory.  I was still attempting to make a great and lasting impression.

Dressing well on a first date shows that you are in the right state of mind, indicates you have social skills, and most importantly shows respect.  I can't blog on behaviors on first dates, however I can talk about proper dress on first dates.

Unfortunately, I never got the chance to go on a dinner date with Kimberly that required a suit, but I am sure I would have been well prepared.

If the first date is casual, stay away from clothes that make you seem that you didn't put effort in your attempts to make a lasting first impression.  Wearing a dark, tapered leg jean is a great start if you must wear a pair of jeans on the first date.  The dark jeans will create a great balance once paired with a nicely pressed oxford and/or sport coat.  Leave the sneakers and running shoes for the gym and basketball court.  Always finish the look with a pair of freshly polished brown oxfords with a matching belt.

In the situation that the first date is a dinner date, then by all means follow suite.  Most nice dinner dates require a jacket.  Be sure to choose a nice sport coat or blazer if not a suit.  Leave the jeans this time, and grab those khakis or dress slacks.  Be sure they are pressed, and creased.  It would not hurt to wear a tie on this dinner date.  Some dinner dates may require a suit.  A grey or navy suit is typically a great and versatile color.  Especially a grey suit in a darker shade that goes well with the evening scenery. You can never be over dressed.

Guys also be sure that you are well groomed.  No lady wants to see you dressed well but smelling horrible.  A nice shower is always in order and use of toiletries in their respective areas of the body.  Also use nice smelling cologne, but don't overdue the fragrances.  You want your date to see you and be attentive to you and not overpowered by your cologne.  Also be sure to that your hair is freshly groomed, and your facial hair is in place.

On a budget?  No worries.  Thrift stores are a great option for picking up nice blazers, and suits for a major fraction of the cost.  It is most likely a great idea to dry clean that suit or blazer before wearing it. Don't be afraid to add an accessory or two, but don't over do it!  Always pay attention to your footwear.  If you are old enough to be dating, then you are old enough to know that sneakers don't belong with a suit or sport coat and dress pants.